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Summary
- Twelve short prayers for living with a man who is often angry: for the moment it starts, for afterwards, for him, and for the long stretch.
- The article opens by separating anger from abuse. Hitting, threatening, breaking things, controlling money or isolating someone is abuse, and no verse asks anyone to stay in danger.
- Psalm 11:5 and Malachi 2:16 are given plainly: Scripture is not neutral about violence, and telling someone to submit their way out of danger misuses the Bible.
- The prayers are anchored to Proverbs 15:1, James 1:19, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Romans 12:17 and Matthew 11:28, and include one for a heart that is starting to keep a list.
- Scripture does not forbid anger. Ephesians 4:26 assumes it and regulates what is done with it; Proverbs 22:24-25 assumes anger is catching.
Bibliography (Click to show)
Sources: Scripture quotations from the NIV via BibleGateway (Psalm 11:5; Malachi 2:16; Proverbs 15:1; 22:24-25; James 1:4, 19; 1 Corinthians 13:5; Romans 12:17; Ephesians 4:26; Mark 3:5; Matthew 11:28). This article is not counselling or legal advice. Anyone in danger should contact a domestic abuse helpline, a doctor or the emergency services. Helplines, checked September 2026 on each service’s own site: National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org); National Domestic Abuse Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk); Men’s Advice Line (mensadviceline.org.uk); Scotland’s Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline (sdafmh.org.uk); Live Fear Free (gov.wales); Domestic and Sexual Abuse Helpline, Northern Ireland (dsahelpline.org); UK Home Office, “Domestic abuse: how to get help” (gov.uk); Women’s Aid Ireland (womensaid.ie); Government of Canada, “Get help now” (canada.ca); 1800RESPECT (1800respect.org.au); All-Russian helpline for women (woman-help.online).
