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Struggling With Lust as a Single Christian Woman: What Helps

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Summary

  • Single Christian women do struggle with lust, and the Bible gives women’s desire a voice in the Song of Solomon.
  • The longing for love is not sin and neither is temptation; Catholics and Presbyterians describe the first stirrings of wrong desire differently, but both say a thought we welcome and feed is sin.
  • For many women lust lives in the imagination, in stories, romance and daydreams, more than in what they see.
  • Paul speaks of the unmarried woman with honour, as one who cares “for the things of the Lord”.
  • It helps to remove one thing that feeds the thoughts, pray in the moment, tell one trusted woman and decide dating limits ahead of time.
  • If you have already crossed a line, Jesus’ word to the woman brought before him still stands: “Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.”

Yes, single Christian women struggle with lust, and you are not strange or alone if you do. Desire is part of how God made you; lust is desire that takes over the mind and runs ahead of God’s time. We deal with it honestly: by naming what feeds it, telling someone we trust, and bringing it to God without shame. The Song of Solomon gives a woman’s voice to all of this. The bride sings openly of her longing for…

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Bibliography (Click to show)
  • The Holy Bible, King James Version (public domain), quoted from BibleGateway and searched in the Project Gutenberg text (eBook #10): Psalm 51:10; Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:1, 5; 8:4, 6–7; Matthew 5:27–28; John 8:3–11; Romans 13:14; 1 Corinthians 7:34; 10:13; Galatians 5:16; 2 Timothy 2:22; Hebrews 4:15; James 1:14–15; 5:16; 1 John 1:9. gutenberg.org/ebooks/10
  • The Holy Bible, New International Version (2011), Song of Songs 2:3–7, via BibleGateway. biblegateway.com
  • Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraphs 2342–2343, 2348–2349, 2351, 1264 and 1446, Libreria Editrice Vaticana. vatican.va
  • Rev. Alciviadis C. Calivas, “The Sacramental Life of the Orthodox Church” (on the mystery of repentance), Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America. goarch.org
  • Marian Jacobs, “Every Woman’s Silent Struggle: Fighting Lust with Sisters in Christ”, Desiring God, 13 March 2018. desiringgod.org
  • The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646), chapter 6, as published by the Orthodox Presbyterian Church. opc.org

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