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Adults Living With Parents: The Bible Sets No Age for Leaving

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Summary

  • The Bible never forbids grown children to live with their parents and never says at what age they must leave home.
  • Genesis 2:24’s “leave his father and his mother” is about marriage starting a new household, not a deadline for single adults.
  • The Catholic Catechism teaches that obedience to parents ends when children are grown, but respect “is always owed to them”; Luther and the Westminster Larger Catechism set no age when obedience ends.
  • Scripture asks adults at home to work and pull their weight, as Paul says: “with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.”
  • Caring for ageing parents is the duty Scripture names most plainly, from 1 Timothy 5 to Jesus’ rebuke of the Corban loophole.
  • Parents of grown children are told not to provoke them, and the Catechism asks them not to pressure a child’s choice of work or spouse.
  • In the parable of the prodigal son the father runs to the son who came home and goes out to plead with the son who stayed.

The Bible never says how old a son or daughter must be to leave home, and it never forbids grown children to live with their parents. What it asks is the same under every roof: honour your father and mother, carry your share of the work, and care for them when they are old. Leaving is tied to marriage. Jesus told a story about a house with two grown sons in it. The younger asked for his share of the…

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Bibliography (Click to show)
  • Scripture is quoted from the King James Version (Genesis 2:24; 45:10; 47:12; Ruth 1:16; Psalm 71:9; Proverbs 23:22; Mark 7:10–13; Luke 2:49, 51; 15:1–3, 13, 20, 28–29, 31; John 19:27; Acts 5:29; Ephesians 6:1–2, 4; Colossians 3:21; 1 Thessalonians 4:11–12; 2 Thessalonians 3:10, 12; 1 Timothy 5:4, 8), and Sirach 3:14–15 from the Douay-Rheims Bible, via BibleGateway.
  • Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraphs 2214–2231, “The Duties of Family Members.” vatican.va
  • Martin Luther, The Small Catechism, Part I, the Fourth Commandment. bookofconcord.org
  • The Westminster Larger Catechism, questions 124–130 on the fifth commandment. opc.org
  • Pew Research Center, “Parents, Young Adult Children and the Transition to Adulthood,” 25 January 2024 (surveys of October–November 2023; living arrangements from the 1993 and 2023 Current Population Survey). pewresearch.org
  • Pew Research Center, “Key milestones for young adults today versus 30 years ago,” chapter 1 of the same report, with its chart of young adults living in a parent’s home by age, 1993 and 2023. pewresearch.org

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