Biblical Debates: Is Kissing Before Marriage a Sin?

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   Anon

   June 22, 2024 12:25 pm

   I think kissing is really important to a relationship. If a man or woman shouldn’t have sex outside of marriage, how are they going to know if they’re physically going to please each other in marriage? Kissing is the best way to do that. Other intimacy like caressing and fondling is important, too, but kissing is the main one. As cold as, possibly, it can seem to think of it this way, dating is testing someone as a marriage partner. Respecting boundaries and clear communication is a must. They should have some physical intimacy, and mutually agree on what is okay and what is not. Because of the importance of kissing, I wouldn’t even see an issue with a couple kissing with tongue/making out after a date or two, or even a first date. Frankly, if they got handsy over clothes, while that’s certainly accelerating things quickly, I’d have the opinion that they must really be into each other. Even if it escalated to slipping hands under the back or into the top of garments, while that’s moving fast and could be unwise, at the same I’d think that this means they must be very into each other. Regardless of whether they French kissed when first dating or waited until later, if a couple is engaged, I’d almost expect that sometimes, when they’re together, not all clothes stay on, and it’s perhaps not an issue if no clothes at all stay on.

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      JD

      July 11, 2024 12:38 am

      On your point about engagement, yes, I’d say it’s normal for an engaged couple to be getting hot and heavy, and this probably means that they’ll have a good honeymoon. Yes, they should save direct sex acts for the honeymoon, but if they’re all over each other, and even undoing and removing clothes, it’s not an ethical issue, in my opinion, and it just means that they’re really into each other. Nothing wrong with them getting familiar with each other in anticipation of the wedding night and honeymoon.

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